How is it possible that my little one is one month old already?! Can I cry yet? She’s already growing way too fast. I can’t even handle it. But this past month has been absolutely incredible. I can’t even begin to explain how happy I’ve been this past month. I’ve enjoyed every moment of this transition so far and am so excited for what’s to come in the future. Since Allie is now a whole month old, I wanted to do a quick check in to tell you all how she’s doing. I’m also including a postpartum check in as well as my thoughts on motherhood (so far). So since there’s a lot to cover, let’s get to it!
ALLIE’S 1 MONTH UPDATE
Weight: She weighed 7 pounds, 11 ounces at birth and at her two week appointment, she weighed 7 pounds, 15 ounces. I haven’t weighed her since then, but she can’t be too much heavier than that (that appointment was almost at three weeks so it’s a relatively accurate weight).
Height: 22 inches long. She’s grown 1 inch since birth (although I definitely feel like she’s grown so much more than that).
Eating: She’s now eating 4 ounces of formula every 3 1/2 to 4 hours during the daytime. At night she goes anywhere from 4 to 5 hours in between bottles depending on how well she’s sleeping.
Sleep: She’s sleeping super well! She hasn’t been a bad sleeper at all so far. She’s had a few nights here and there where it’s been harder for her to stay asleep, but most times she only wakes up twice each night. We feed her before we go to bed sometime between 9 and 10pm. Then she’ll wake up sometime between 1 and 2am and again between 5 and 6am. Then we wake up for good between 8:30 and 10am. So she’s doing awesome! I couldn’t be happier in this department.
She’s also still sleeping in our bedroom. After doing some research on it, I think we’ll end up keeping her in our bedroom for the first year. The American Academy of Pediatrics actually recommends babies sleep in their parents rooms for the first 6-12 months (in their own bed!) and we actually have two moves coming up in the next year. We’ll be moving in September into a new apartment and then again next June when I move back home with her. So rather than setting up her nursery again in the new place in a few months, it just makes more sense to pack it all up and wait until we make our final move next year. So that’s the plan for right now. We’ll see how it goes. I actually love having her in our bedroom now.
Milestones: I think she’s still too young for milestones? She’s already super good at holding her head up and rolls to her side constantly. One night last week she was rolling so much that she almost rolled onto her stomach. Not even joking. Scared the crap out of me. Thankfully she has plenty of months left before I have to worry about that (I hope). But right now she’s just Allie. Nothing major happening with her quite yet.
Best moments: Every moment. Seriously. Aside from the challenging moment I’ll be explaining below, I’ve been super happy with this child. I love seeing her smile even when it’s in the middle of the night and I’m completely sleep deprived. I love seeing the way she looks at the world and her surroundings with awe and amazement. It’s been so much fun to get to know her and I’m super excited to watch her grow.
Challenging moments: She’s honestly not too challenging of a baby. The only challenge I’ve had this past month is her clinginess. She loves to be held. To the point where holding her is the only way to calm her down most times and it’s also the only way to put her to sleep. She must be sleeping on my chest. If I move her, it’s the end of the world. SO I actually invested in a Moby Wrap a couple weeks ago. This thing has been a lifesaver!
Being that I work from home, it’s super inconvenient (and frustrating) to have to spend my entire day holding her. It’s just not doable. I had one week where literally nothing got done because she was in my arms for a good majority of the day. So I bought the wrap and I now couldn’t imagine not having it. I love being able to hold her and still be hands free at the same time. She can nap and I can work with zero issues. She’s actually sleeping on my chest right now as I type this. Love the Moby Wrap!
Other than her crying sessions and having to hold her at all times, we really haven’t had many challenging moments. I’ve fully embraced every aspect of motherhood and am loving every moment of it so far.
MY 1 MONTH POSTPARTUM UPDATE
My mental health: I’m still doing great in terms of my mental health! I’m so pleased by this. As you know, this was the one thing I was truly worried about after her birth. I check in with myself on a daily basis and have been carefully monitoring my thoughts and feelings and I’m happy to say it’s still smooth sailing here. Of course I’ve had a few moments here and there that have been challenging, but it’s not often enough to even say I have the baby blues let alone full blown depression.
I make sure to get myself out of the house on a daily basis and I spend time with friends when needed. I also have a few other mommy friends along with family that I can (and do) turn to when I need someone to talk to or someone else’s advice. And then I have an amazing husband who’s been so incredibly helpful these last few weeks as well. So I feel that I have a good system in place for keeping my mental health on track. But of course, I’m keeping a very close eye on it!
My physical health: I admit, I’ve totally failed at getting back to a consistent workout routine. I’ve been to the gym a few times and make sure to go for a walk on a daily basis so that I’m not completely failing here. I’m also very closely monitoring what I’m eating so I’m able to maintain my weight while I’m on my gym break. But for the most part, I’ve really just been taking the time to settle into my new routine with a newborn. I’ve also been focusing on my master’s degree, my certification program, and this blog as well. There’s a lot to balance right now so at the moment I’m just getting myself into a new routine. Once I have that down, it’ll be much easier for me to add in my workouts again. I’m feeling fantastic so I’m not too concerned about my workouts. I know I’ll get back to them once life settles down a little bit.
My recovery: I’m noticing that my recovery is considered a bit “abnormal”. I felt like myself again within a few days of giving birth. I resumed all normal activities and routines the moment I got home from the hospital with zero issues. But I’ve gotten a lot of questions, comments and concerns from others this past month.
A week after Allie was born, my family flew in from Maine and we did a 2 hour walking ghost tour through Old Town and our tour guide was very concerned by me walking. She was super sweet, but very much got on my nerves because she was constantly insisting I sit down…I didn’t want or need to sit down. I was at the gym just that morning. A walk through Old Town wasn’t going to kill me. But I get that from a lot of people when I’m out. They’ll ask me how old Allie is and when I tell them she’s x weeks, they instantly look at me with a concerned look on their face. God forbid I get up and moving. And then of course I’ve gotten comments on my doctor clearing me for workouts (everything I do is 100% doctor approved!). Drives me insane sometimes.
But everyone’s recovery is different. Some take longer to get back on their feet and start feeling like themselves again while others (like myself) recover more quickly. Honestly, I wasn’t too worried about my recovery simply because I’m so healthy and in shape. Keeping up my workouts throughout pregnancy definitely made my pregnancy a million times easier which led to an “easier” labor and now a super easy recovery as well. I had my two days in the hospital where I was super sore, but I was still up and moving around. It was very important to me that I keep myself moving.
I was given a ton of pain meds to take home with me from the hospital and they have yet to be opened (how do I go about throwing out prescriptions?? Is there a special way you’re supposed to do that?…is this a dumb question?). So I’ve had zero pain or discomfort. I also had very minimal bleeding which stopped after the first week (thank God). All swelling went down within the first few days as well which I was super thankful for. And within a week, I was feeling 100% normal. I don’t even feel like I just had a baby. It’s crazy to think I just popped out a child!
I’ll have my 6 week postpartum doctors appointment in another week and a half so I’m hoping everything on the inside has healed just as smoothly (which I imagine it did). But overall, I’m so happy with my recovery!
MY THOUGHTS ON MOTHERHOOD (SO FAR)
You guys, I absolutely LOVE being a mom. Love love LOVE it. I seriously had myself in such a panic over this transition into motherhood and so far it couldn’t possibly be going more smoothly. It’s an adjustment learning how to work from home with a newborn, but that’s really been my only “complaint”.
While it’s been a super great transition so far, there have been a few things that have surprised me a bit. I’ll be doing a more in-depth post on this in the future so I wont get too into it. But I’ve definitely been challenged a bit already in terms of some of my beliefs and what I wanted to be doing as a parent. For example, I was very against sharing a room with her as well as wearing her throughout the day and yet I’m now doing both. It drives me crazy, but at the end of the day it’s really just been what’s best for her. So I’m trying to base all my parenting choices on her personality and her needs now rather than my own beliefs and wants.
I’m also experiencing a TON of patience. If you know me, you know that I have zero patience for anything. NONE. But for some reason, I am the world’s most patient person with this little girl. Of course I have my frustrating moments like any parent, but the amount of patience I’ve had with her over the past month is insane. Zack’s been the opposite. He used to have way more patience than me and now for some reason his patience runs out very quickly. So it’s kind of a weird switch.
Overall, I’m just happy. So so happy. I can’t even explain it, but I finally feel settled. This new role doesn’t feel overwhelming or stressful like I thought it would. It feels natural. I feel more like myself now as if I was just always meant to be a mom. My life and our little family finally feels complete. My heart feels full.
How was your first month of motherhood? How long did it take you to recover and start feeling like yourself again?