This post is sponsored on behalf of Lincoln Military Housing, but all thoughts and opinions are my own.
With Zack being over 7,000 miles away on the other side of the world, I know this holiday season will be the most difficult holiday season of my life. And what makes it worse is that I don’t have the support of our military family and community back home in North Carolina. Honestly, I’d love to just skip over the holidays and not deal with it. I don’t want to celebrate the holidays if Zack’s not here. But realistically speaking, I can’t do that. I can’t spend the next two months of my life, locked in my room, drinking wine and crying (although that totally sounds like a great plan some days!).
So if you’re in the same situation I’m in and your spouse is deployed or stationed overseas this holiday season, then I hope this post can be helpful to you. Here’s how I plan to get through the holidays while Zack’s away:
ATTEND THE HOLIDAY PARTIES.
If there’s a holiday party, then go to it! Get dressed up, have some drinks, and mingle with your coworkers, friends, and/or family. Enjoy yourself. It doesn’t do anybody any good if you spend your time being depressed. I know it’s hard to have a good time without your spouse or significant other, but it’s important to try. Although Zack wishes he could be here with me, I know he will appreciate it and like knowing that I’m enjoying myself. He really does want me to be happy regardless of whether or not he can be a part of it.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVITY.
I cannot stress this one enough. It’s so important to surround yourself with people who truly love and support you and your relationship. Find people who know your situation and are understanding of it whether it’s friends, family, coworkers, or even ransom strangers from online support groups. I’m not going to lie, you will probably cry multiple times throughout the holidays. I know I will. And that’s okay. Spend time with people who will let you break down when you need to, but at the same time know when it’s time to get you moving forward. Find people who are going to get you out of the house and help you through this difficult time.
Steer clear of those who will only tear you down and make you feel worse. I know I’ll be staying away from those who are insensitive to our situation. I don’t know about you, but I don’t need to be reminded every ten minutes that my husband’s away. I also don’t need people who are going to get annoyed with me if I have a moment of weakness. Thankfully, 99.9% of the people in our life aren’t like that so I should be all set in terms of positivity this holiday season.
CONTINUE YOUR HOLIDAY TRADITIONS.
As difficult as it may be, it’s important to continue with your usual holiday traditions. Pick out a Christmas tree, go Christmas caroling, host your usual holiday party, go black Friday shopping, watch Christmas movies on Christmas Eve. Whatever it may be. Do it. And since your spouse wont be there to enjoy it with you, find a great friend or family member to enjoy the traditions with you instead. It may be upsetting to not have your spouse there with you to enjoy these traditions, but the holidays is supposed to be a cheerful time of year. Time doesn’t stop but because your spouse is away. Life goes on so soak up the holidays and enjoy them the best you can.
If someone invites you to get out of the house and do something, then do it! Go to the movies, do some Christmas shopping, attend parties, go out for coffee. Whatever the invite might be, say yes to it. Even if you just don’t want to. I promise you won’t regret it. It’s important to get yourself out of the house so you’re not spending your day laying in bed, drinking wine, eating junk, and watching sad movies (although, again, this may sound appealing some days!).
MAKE TIME TO TALK.
If it’s possible, schedule some time to talk to your significant other whether it’s through text or Skype or FaceTime. It doesn’t matter. Just find a way to talk to one another. I know I will definitely be spending as much time as possible on FaceTime with Zack on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Just hearing his voice and seeing his face will make me feel so much better about him being so far away. It makes me feel like he’s right there with me. If it’s not possible, to talk on the exact holiday, then choose another day where both of you are available. It may require you to be a bit more flexible, but I’m sure it would be worth it to have a few moments to hear from them.
How do you get through the holidays when your spouse is deployed?