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[ad] Today I am dreaming...

I've been a bit MIA lately. Why you may ask? Well, because I've been half on the struggle bus and half working on a rather large project that I've had in draft mode for far too long. And I am SO excited about it. I literally woke up the other day and decided THAT was the day I'd get started on it and I've been hooked on it ever since. If you're a mom in Southern Maine, you won't want to miss this! So be sure to sign up for our email list via the link in my bio so you can be one of the first to know what's going on.
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I've been a bit MIA...

Well, it's officially the day Zack and I have been looking forward to for a couple of years now. While we've already unofficially been "moved on" from military life for a couple of months now, today it's official that Zack is no longer an Active Duty Marine and I am no longer a military spouse. The first big chapter of his adult life and our life together has officially ended. It's scary almost when you've been living with all the stability of a lifestyle for so long. A stable job, stable income, health benefits, a home. It's been a challenging couple of months as we get more settled here in Maine and figure out the next step for our little family. But I know we have so much to look forward to in the next year and it's refreshing to know we have the opportunity to start over. I am so proud of this guy and I can't wait to see what the next chapter of our life has in store for us. •
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Well, it's officially the day...

This mama is on the struggle bus today. This morning I spent over an hour searching for Allie's sippy cup of milk only to find it in the shower...where I looked 5+ times considering that's where she was playing while I got ready for the day. I then got the incorrect order from Dunkin and to make that even worse, it was pumpkin flavored...and if you know me, you know I cannot stand anything pumpkin flavored so I couldn't even suck it up and drink it (shoutout to @mwhited8195 for bringing me the correct drink order!). Nap time wasn't any better. A solid 40 minutes of crying before Allie finally went down...then she woke up 30 minutes later 🙄 And now I'm scrambling to get everything on my to-do list done so we can officially launch Blogmas tomorrow 😬 It's been a morning and I'm about ready for my own nap at this point. But at least it's Friday? 🤷🏻‍♀️😂
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This mama is on the...

It's yet another snow day here in Maine. The last winter I spent here was in 2015 and we maybe had three snow storms all winter. This year, we've had 3-5 just in the last couple of weeks 🙄 I'm already homesick for beautiful and warm North Carolina summers 😔 anyone else here who hates winter? If you need us, Allie and I will be curled up inside with some movies and a never-ending to-do list. #bloggerlife •
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It's yet another snow day...

Blogmas starts in T-5 days! I've been working so hard on producing awesome Blogmas content these past couple of months so I'm super excited to finally start sharing it with you all this weekend. Today on the blog I'm sharing a quick breakdown of Blogmas 2018, what you can look forward to on Mainely Keating, and 25 blog post ideas for those of you who want to participate in Blogmas as well! You can find the link to the full blog post in my bio! •
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Living In Limbo

Living In Limbo | Why Hello Lovely

It’s that time of month, ladies.  I know, I know.  That may be a bit of an overshare.  But I’m just not handling it well.  It’s yet another month where this girl still isn’t pregnant.  I had him home for three weeks and still nothing.  As much as we both want to start our family, Zack and I both agree that right now wouldn’t be the best timing considering he’s on the other side of the world, but a girl can still hope for it right?  I can still feel disappointed by a negative pregnancy test or my monthly visitor arriving. It’s bittersweet…but mostly bitter.

Right before Zack reenlisted, we decided we wanted to start trying for a baby.  Well, not necessarily try, but either way, we just didn’t want to be preventing one.  We wanted it to happen whenever it was supposed to happen.  I know it’ll happen at some point, but ideally, we were hoping to start our family this year.  I had it all planned out.  Silly me for thinking I could actually try planning something as a military spouse.  We now have the best form of birth control there is: the U.S. Marine Corps.   Now my husband is on the other side of the world and I’m sitting here in Maine pretty much living in limbo.

I use this term a lot to describe my current situation.  It’s just that: limbo.  While everyone else is out there enjoying their lives, my life feels like it’s at a standstill.  I’m on pause while everyone else around me is on play.  He’s gone just long enough for me to not be able to comfortably live with family, but at the same time, he’s not gone long enough for me to enter into a 12 month lease on an apartment.  90% of our belongings are in storage until we move again this summer.  I can’t even unpack and get comfortable.  I’m now nearing the end of my bachelor’s degree and am desperately wanting to start my career, but I’m in a place where there are zero career opportunities for me (and I refuse to continue adding pointless jobs to my resume that have nothing to do with the career path I want to go down).  So unfortunately, there’s not much I can do to add to my resume right now either.  We can’t purchase our home and get settled into it or start our family or anything that we want to do for our marriage and for our life.  Life has been paused.

It’s hard to skim through my Facebook newsfeed or even through some of my favorite blogs and see everyone’s toddlers or their ultrasounds and baby bump photos, expressing how happy and excited they are to be expanding their family.  Of course, I’m so incredibly happy for my friends and favorite bloggers with children and I love keeping up with their lives, but I can’t help wanting that to be us.   It’s so incredibly frustrating.  One of the many reasons why I don’t want to be a military spouse anymore.  My life currently consists of just waiting for the military to tell us where we’re going next and waiting for him to come home so that we can push play and continue on.

I almost feel like this is a waste of a year.  Of course I’m finishing my education, starting grad school, getting back in shape and building my blog and business and all those wonderful things, but I feel like it’s a completely separate life from Zack’s.  We don’t currently live the same life.  We have separate homes and he has separate friends and separate schedules.  Everything is separate.  And that’s upsetting.  I don’t mean to sound negative or stubborn, but I refuse to build a life without him.  If I wanted a life without him, then what’s the point of getting married?

I’m ready to not be living in a constant state of confusion anymore.  A life where everything is at a standstill and no progress can be made.  I want to have a life with him that’s always on play and never  on pause.  At this rate, July cannot come soon enough.

Have any of you ever felt this way?  I’d love to know I’m not the only one!

XOXO
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